Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Tiger Woods & Duck Towels

"Mom, can I google something?"

I am in the bathroom with a towel swathed Eli, struggling to clip his tiny toenails while he's perched on the counter. 

Granted permission, Jacob proceeds to google: pictures of Tiger Woods' house.


You just never know what your kid is going to be interested in next.

"Mom, look at this. . ." his voice is full of awe as he holds out the phone, scrolling through photo after photo of the golf idol's little massive mecca.  He finds an aerial image with explanations and arrows pointing to the indoor pool, putting green and massive excess of amenities. 

"Mommy, is this the ducky towel?" Eli asks, peering suspiciously at his white wrap.

"Yes," I say absently, thinking that Tiger Woods is not someone I want my son to view as successful.

We discuss golf and success and cheating and faithfulness and what's really important and I think that we connected some loose threads and then Eli's offended little voice interrupts:

"Mom this is NOT the ducky towel!  There are no ducks on this towel! You said it was the ducky towel but it isn't!"

Sorry, bud, not the ducky towel.

Behind me Jacob voice-googles: pictures of the INSIDE of Tiger Woods' house.

Maybe I didn't connect.

Maybe I didn't listen at the right time to duck towel question, maybe I over criticized the golf hero, maybe I undervalued what was really going on: a normal curiosity about public figures. 

It's a wild crazy world out there; a scary one to raise kids in, and I am stretched as  I try to meet the intellectual needs of my nine year old, the social needs of my seven year old and the 157 wide and varied needs of my two year old.

Tonight Daniel took us out for pizza and after finishing and driving away, Eli heaved a huge sigh:  "It was a busy day. . ."  You betcha son, glad you noticed.

I hate busyness for the sake of busyness; my cover photo on facebook is a quote to remind me: stop the glorification of busy. I try so hard to have time for people and carve out moments that really matter, but the truth is life is beyond crazy right now and I am struggling to wrap my fingers around the minutes. 

Deep inside there is this huge fear of missing the most important conversations with my kids or failing to connect with my husband.  I feel:

spread thin
 Almost every mom I know feels this way; relief at the end of each day tempered by the awareness that sweet sleep may be interrupted by
a) vomit
b) nightmare
c) need for a drink at 1 am
d) all of the above
But underneath the exhaustion I am so thrilled  to get to be the one to watch them grow and develop and become little people with thoughts and dreams and interests and personalities.  It is a privilege. . .
weary, yes, absolutely. 
More coffee please.
Also, advice on how to handle celebrity sports figures and their dichotomous lives.


  1. When you figure it let me know! To think I thought it'd get easier :)

  2. Can I just say I think you're a great mom and that it's awesome you are talking with your son about these things and he's not googling in secret or feeling afraid to ask you questions. I think your effect on your son isn't going to be one hinge moment of one amazing conversation but instead the cumulative effect of all those moments over all those years. On a different note, have you read Crystal Paine's Say Goodbye to Survival Mode? (She's the Money Saving Mom blogger.) I just got her book from the library--excited they had it--and am in chapter 1, but it's already so good. I admire you!

  3. yikes! my eldest is 7 1/2 and he is already saving up for his own ipod touch (he says he'll have enough once he's in 4th grade, so.....) and it just give me such a queasy tummy to think about all that is still out there for them yet to discover. it frightens me to death. i think prayer and wisdom (and prayers FOR wisdom) are the antidotes i'm relying on. and lots of deep breaths too.